Kids Focus Flash Forum November 2016

Welcome to the Kids Focus Flash Forum! Each month I’ll offer practical tips and insights for parents and teachers that can help kids improve learning and behavior. My approach will always be natural, healthy, and brain building. These tips have been tested in NM classrooms and homes, so I know firsthand how well they can work. Kids Focus Flash Forum is my blog – so if you have comments or requests for future topics, please email me at marcia.lee@kidsfocususa.com and I will share your comments in the next forum.

TOPIC #1 – How to BUILD KIDS’ CONFIDENCE
A lot of kids struggle with lack of belief in themselves and their self-worth. It’s hard to convince a kid to finish her/his homework or do well on a test when they don’t think they’re going to succeed anyway. Many of them have been labeled (e.g., ADHD, dyslexic, autistic, etc.) and that label hangs around their necks like a lifetime sentence. How can we help?

ANSWER: CHANGE “OUR” (Parents/Teachers) FOCUS!
The first thing I do is ignore all the labels. My job is to find the best in each kid. I look for what I can fall in love with inside every kid I meet. I also want to know what their challenging behavior is really asking for. In this case, what makes a kid feel confident?

Kids will try to become what we see in them. Always look for the BEST in every kid and FOCUS on her/his STRENGTH. Studies show that when we focus on kids’ negative problems or failures, only 20% improvement is possible. On the other hand, focusing on a strength can create 400% improvement.

Here’s a real-life example: A middle school student struggling with spelling. He’s bright, but spelling is tough for him and no one believes he can get it right. We talked about the weirdness of English spelling – so many words aren’t spelled the way they sound. Now he knows at least some of the challenge is not his fault! Next, I discovered that his brain is literally wired to move in order to learn ANYTHING! (More about movement in the next forum!)

Solution: He does a set of cross-lateral Kids Focus movements before he studies and walks around as he memorizes words. He’s improved his spelling AND is building a great vocabulary! Most of all, he feels like he’s in control. Now that’s confidence!
Self-mastery = Self- confidence

Reader’s Response: “. . . sometimes the labels are actually accurate and they represent important information potentially about how a person might be wired, or why certain behaviors might surface, etc. That information is important to know and to be open to considering how to fold it into the strategizing that goes into supporting the person.”

Marcia’s Comment: “I agree that labels can provide important information about behaviors. My frustration is that most people slap on a label and NEVER look deeper. Most people CONFUSE the challenge or the label with the child. I can’t tell you how many people tell me their child IS “ADHD, OCD, ODD, etc.” This is a terrible confusion. A child is a child; he or she is NOT his/her challenging behavior. A child has a personality and uniqueness, AND he/she has challenges (as do we all).

Behavior is a snapshot of what the brain is telling us about its current needs, which play out in learning and behavior. The needs are often complex, whereas labels tend to be simplistic. A label should be the beginning of an exploration into deeper causes, not the end.”Kids Focus Website

UPCOMING EVENTS:  For more Info on Kids Focus Workshops and private tutoring sessions: Call 949-468-9841 or Email me at marcia.lee@kidsfocususa.com

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Next Kids Focus Workshop in ABQ, NM – June 20, 2015, Saturday

Kids Focus Workshops for Teachers, Parents, Counselors, and Mental Health Professionals
Simple Movements for Children’s Focus – Calmness – Concentration – Self-Regulation

Positive change in minutes!       A-Dreamstime Kids Moving2
See Kids Focus in action at www.kidsfocususa.com!

June 20, 2015, Saturday in ABQ, NM –  9 AM – 4:30 PM at High Desert Center for Spiritual Living, Paradise Hills

You Can Register Now! Call Marcia Lee at 949-468-9841 or email Marcia at marcia.lee@kidsfocususa.com

Learn how to help children focus, feel calmer, concentrate, and learn to self-regulate naturally and quickly without the use of medication.

KIDS FOCUS BENEFITS:
1) supports kids’ brain and behavioral development
2) boosts academic success & improves test scores
3) builds confidence and positive attitude
4) improves behavior in the classroom and at home
5) drug-free solutions for ADD/ADHD behavior
6) natural solutions to prevent bullying

The Kids Focus Workshop includes:
~ Over 70 Safe, Easy-to-Do Movements
~ Tools for Effective Behavior Management
~ Fosters Kids’ Emotional Balance and Self-Regulation
~ Use Kids Focus with Kids from Early Childhood through High School
~ Includes enhanced Kids Focus Manual
~ Certificate of Completion for 6 ceu’s/clock hours – NM Trainer Registry

REGISTER NOW: call Marcia Lee cell: 949-468-9841 or email marcia.lee@kidsfocususa.com Marcia Lee, Educational Trainer, Reading Specialist, ADD/ADHD Consultant

Part 1 – Anderson Cooper Show on ADHD – Not a Fair Fight

Dear Mr. Cooper,
Parents deserve to hear important facts about ADHD medications that were not addressed recently on your show about ADHD. The lives and health of millions of American children are at stake. We do not want our children to have to pay the terrible price of our ignorance.

ADHD medications are neurotoxic and brain-disabling. This is the real science that Dr. Jensen intentionally did not address. Nor did Dr. Jensen address the fact that psychiatry is trying to make us believe that age-appropriate childhood behavior is an illness. Dr. Jensen’s calm, soothing tones were an act designed to hide bad medicine. His description of children losing their “sparkle” is a far cry from the reality of children drugged into submission like zombies.

Since the 1980s the FDA has warned repeatedly about the seriousness and overuse of psycho-stimulants (ADHD medication) on children. These are the same drugs that were banned from the American market years ago as diet pills and the chemical cousins to the street drugs we DON’T want our children to use. These drugs have been repackaged as ADHD medication, but a nice ad campaign cannot hide the deadly facts.

You need to fight fair, Mr. Cooper, and ask a doctor of similar status and medical background to appear on your show, such as David Stein or Peter Breggin, who can explain the very real and frightening effects of ADHD medications and give parents healthy options for helping their children grow and mature safely. For this to be a fair debate, you also need to produce a show that invites parents of children who died or were permanently impaired because of ADHD medication. Give parents a chance to experience the other side.

Parents can check online at solutionswithoutdrugs.com, psychintegrity.org, and toxicpsychiatry.com for accurate and complete information on ADHD and ADHD medication.

Sincerely,
Marcia Lee, Solutions Without Drugs, Children’s Brain/Body Balancing

School Bullying and a new Occupy Movement

I think the issue of bullying is much larger than we think. Children imitate what they see. That’s one of the most important ways they learn, particularly in the case of social behavior. Bullying cannot exist on its own in children. They learn it by imitating the adults around them who coerce them in many, many ways – at home with parental abuse, in schools with abuse by teachers, administration, and counselors (I witnessed this firsthand in the 70s and wrote an expose on it), being forced to take drugs that make them feel sick and have horrible adverse effects, and so on. Please note that I’m not objecting to setting healthy disciplinarian guidelines. I’m talking about abuse. Bullying is abuse being passed on by children who themselves have been abused in many ways and are being told that abuse is “for their own good”.

Add to this picture a world where Big Agra, Big Pharma, Big Banks, Big Oil, and Govt control so much of our lives and get away with horrible abuses. Small farms being destroyed, the right to fresh water being taken over by corporations, cars and industries that pollute the environment and cause multiple diseases, investment bank CEOs causing large scale financial destruction without being prosecuted. No wonder the Occupy Movement is growing. We want a voice. And children’s voices are the most stifled of all. No wonder children lash out at other children. They’re angry. They have a right to be. Maybe children should start an Occupy Movement in schools and demand the right to speak freely and openly, the right to be treated respectfully and with kindness, the right to the best education, and the right to be who they are and mature at their own pace without being drugged or coerced.